Thank you Lord God for all the blessings. ❤

Thank you Lord God for all the blessings. ❤

Does actions really speak louder than words?

Hmmmm…. I got a thought today if Actions really speak louder than Words?….

Some of my friends say yes it’s true and it has a big impact in a certain relationship. Sabagay hndi mo ren nmn masasabe if sincere ang isang tao if hindi mo nakikita sa galaw niya e diba. But what if he/she says all these sweet stuff and promises to you pero after a year or two wala namang ginawa. I mean little things that simply mean big.

Does it also say na pag nagsabi ka ng isang bagay sa isang tao and your actions are way different from the words u’ve said, does that mean it’s not true? Or baka nakalimutan niya lang na gawin o iparamdam un? Pwede rin na pag gumawa nmn sila ng actions to make you feel loved but they don’t say it out loud, some people think na sapilitan lang. For the sake of the girlfriend and boyfriend responsibilities.

I don’t know actually… Hahahaha! Well for me, based from my past relationships, it doesn’t matter whether you say it or do it once as long as your consistent. I mean okay lang nmn if you say sweet stuff that’s part of a relationship for your partner to feel that you are aware that he/she is special to you. Same as doing it, syempre mas makakadagdag ng expression if you do it. Like cooking for her/him, buying gifts, or just being at home, cuddle and talk.

For me kasi di nmn ako choosy to whether you say it everyday or do something for me everyday. I mean I’m not requiring it pero diba automatic na un for a guy/girl to think of something to make the other partner feel special. It’s not bad to say it everyday at least you always remind him/her of your feelings. Pag actions naman andaming pedeng gawin para maparamdam mo ung nrramdaman mo. From simple things to really big surprises.

Balanse lang dapat sguro. I guess it’s nice to hear words from the heart but it’s nicer to feel it by actions. And that’s how it becomes special. Kumbaga may thrill hahaha. So ayun lang. It doesn’t have to be big…. Think of something he/she likes. Compose a love letter or a long text saying how happy you are. Maraming maliliit at simpleng bagay na pwedeng kang sabihin at gawin. Just make sure it’s balanced and consistent. Mejo mahirap pag malabo, mahirap kumapa sa isang kwartong madilim. Hehehehhe.

Well, hello. Yun lang! Bow! ‘Til next time ☺

Uso pala talaga maging tanga….

Wait…. I first have to laugh because of the title… Okay, I smiled already… ☺

It’s been like a month since nagsulat ako….

Well sorry I am not a professional writer and all but I just wanted to share something…

Yung title totoo yan… Confirmed… Hahaha!

Well I don’t know about you but I’ve been there, a lot of times already…. Haha! But one thing I learned is that everything is okay kahit na nagmukha kang tanga. You gave your all diba. You gave everything, as in tipong buong sarili mo na binigay mo na wala kana tinira sa sarili mo… I guess I was contented back then… I mean I’m not a type of girl who loves to play… I mean having guys to date every now and then…. Well hndi nmn kasi ako maganda hahaha ☺

Simple lang dn kasi yung gusto ko to fall in love with someone who loves me. No buts, no ifs. Halos every girl naman eh gusto yung ganyang relasyon. I guess I wasn’t the player type of girl. Kaya nagsesettle ako sa kng anong mas alam kong safe. Sa kung ano yung nasa harap ko. And then wat, tanga tanga na naman. Sa ngayon, natatawa na lang ako when I look back on all the stupid decisions I’ve done. I guess natanggap ko na sa sarili ko na okay nmn dn ung pgging tanga ko e at least may natutunan ako. No regrets at all.

As they say, you become stupid when you’re in love. Grabe no, parang drugs sa sobrang nakakaadik. Feeling mo naka high ka yung tipong bawat gawin niya kilig na kilig kana. Muntanga talaga. Pero masarap…. Masarap sa pakiramdam na may nagmamahal at may minamahal. So I’m not that stupid at all haha. Sguro dumaan lang ako sa pgging stupida pero I felt happy. I chose to be happy. I chose to be stupid. And now, I guess I’m excited to be in love again. To be stupid again I guess.

Uso maging tanga sa panahong ngayon. E ano naman kng nging tanga ka at least alam mo sa sarili mo na binigay mo ang lahat at ngging totoo ka sa sarili mo. Simpleng tao lang po ako. Hindi ako maarte sa relasyon. Kung ano ka, yun ka. Kung babaguhin man kta, I’)) change you for the better. Both of us, kasi teamwork ang relasyon diba.

So sa lahat ng nging tanga, ngging tanga naun at mgging tanga pa lang in falling in love….. PUSH NIYO YAN! Kasi masarap sa bandang huli na kahit ikaw ung nasaktan, iniwan, ginago at minaltrato ng masama ng pinakamamahal mong tao…. Alam mo sa sarili mo na nagmahal ka lang…. At wala kang pinagsisihan….

SO STAND UP AND BE PROUD!!!! ☺

PS: Hindi ka pinalaki ng magulang mo at itinadhana na maging tanga habang buhay. Darating at darating din yan. Sa tamang panahon, tamang lugar at tamang tao.

Enjoyin mo lang ang pgging tanga…. But be wiser na next time haha. Any relationship, mapa love man o friendship or family…. There will always be a lesson.

The Big Dang Theory: Know Your Worth and Don’t Settle

amyxsauruss:

Today I read a quote that really affected me,  “

Other women are not my competition. I stand with them, not against them.

” I’ve always believed in this because I’ve been surrounded by strong, independent women all my life. My mom taught me to never depend on a man; my friends taught me to chart my own path; my roommate taught me to always follow my dreams; and experience taught me that when someone shows you their true colors, believe them. 

Unfortunately I’m finding it very hard to stand amongst women and not compare myself ever since I found out my boyfriend has been cheating on me. 

It would be very easy for me to ruin this ‘other woman’s’ reputation, call her names, slander her all over the Internet - and I’m pretty sure no one would hold me accountable for anything that would happen to her because the one thing that unites people is heartbreak and betrayal. But the truth is, she has no responsibility towards me. Whether she knew about me or not, the only person who is accountable to me, to us, is our boyfriends/husbands. He was the one who breached his duty of loyalty, not her. She is a symptom of a much larger problem, a problem that has nothing to do with her or I. 

That being said, I don’t take bullshit lying down so after I confronted him, I confronted her:

“This is Aja. Brian and I were together, as a couple, until today when I found out about you two. You are the other woman. He was with me while he has been texting you and commenting on your photos. I can’t be mad at you because I’m hoping you didn’t know - as women we have to stick together. But he did this to me while he was telling me he loved me; that I was his world; that I was his true love. You are none of these things to him so how will he treat you? Good luck.””

As I read those words my heart breaks into a million pieces. Never did I imagine I’d have to go through a situation as devastating as betrayal. I in no way contacted her because I was worried about her - I do not care what happens with her. I contacted her because I was furious and hurt and wanted to be heard. I wanted her to know that whether it was intentional or not, she will always hold the title for being “the other woman”. That being said I was not going to berate her or insult her or harass her, I am better than that.  

Real woman stand tall and are strong. We don’t stand around and let people break our soul. We pick up the pieces and rebuild ourselves to come back stronger.

It has taken me a while to take a stand. I’ve had suspicions for months but always hoped that he would prove my suspicions wrong. Lesson learned, never underestimate the power of a woman’s intuition. 

I took a stand, but I am not standing alone. The people in my corner who are supporting me are the women in my life. My girlfriends, my mother and even his ex-girlfriend. While there might be some bad seeds in our female community, my life is proof that real, strong, supportive women do exist. 

To those of you who are going through betrayal:

People don’t cheat because of who you are, they cheat because of who they aren’t. Take the time to reflect on your relationship, learn from your mistakes, come to terms with the end of the relationship and come back better than ever. Don’t jump into a new relationship because you are lonely and don’t expect closure because there is nothing they can say or do to make you feel better about what they have done to you. Take time to heal your heart. This is going to be a long, difficult road but I am by your side every step of the way.   

To my ladies: 

You know who you are. You ladies are my rock, my soulmates, my inspiration. You are my strength, my shoulder to cry on and my encouragement. I look at every one of you and feel so lucky that through the craziness of life, I have developed such strong relationships.

Anyone would be lucky enough to have a great core group of friends but my group is full of entrepreneurs, fitness guru’s, social activists and fashion mavens. 

We are a group of Beyonce’s - kind of… almost… in MY mind. Ok fine, we are a group of Yonce’s. But still, how cool is that? Thank you for your friendship, your love and your strength.

I love you.

the big dang theory: Know your worth and don’t settle. 

Today I read a quote that really affected me,

“Other women are not my competition. I stand with them, not against them. ”
I’ve always believed in this because I’ve been surrounded by strong, independent women all my life. My mom taught me to never depend on a man; my friends taught me to chart my own path; my roommate taught me to always follow my dreams; and experience taught me that when someone shows you their true colors, believe them.

Unfortunately I’m finding it very hard to stand amongst women and not compare myself ever since I found out my boyfriend has been cheating on me.

It would be very easy for me to ruin this ‘other woman’s’ reputation, call her names, slander her all over the Internet - and I’m pretty sure no one would hold me accountable for anything that would happen to her because the one thing that unites people is heartbreak and betrayal. But the truth is, she has no responsibility towards me. Whether she knew about me or not, the only person who is accountable to me, to us, is our boyfriends/husbands. He was the one who breached his duty of loyalty, not her. She is a symptom of a much larger problem, a problem that has nothing to do with her or I.

That being said, I don’t take bullshit lying down so after I confronted him, I confronted her:

“This is Aja. Brian and I were together, as a couple, until today when I found out about you two. You are the other woman. He was with me while he has been texting you and commenting on your photos. I can’t be mad at you because I’m hoping you didn’t know - as women we have to stick together. But he did this to me while he was telling me he loved me; that I was his world; that I was his true love. You are none of these things to him so how will he treat you? Good luck.”
As I read those words my heart breaks into a million pieces. Never did I imagine I’d have to go through a situation as devastating as betrayal. I in no way contacted her because I was worried about her - I do not care what happens with her. I contacted her because I was furious and hurt and wanted to be heard. I wanted her to know that whether it was intentional or not, she will always hold the title for being “the other woman”. That being said I was not going to berate her or insult her or harass her, I am better than that.

Real woman stand tall and are strong. We don’t stand around and let people break our soul. We pick up the pieces and rebuild ourselves to come back stronger.

It has taken me a while to take a stand. I’ve had suspicions for months but always hoped that he would prove my suspicions wrong. Lesson learned, never underestimate the power of a woman’s intuition.

I took a stand, but I am not standing alone. The people in my corner who are supporting me are the women in my life. My girlfriends, my mother and even his ex-girlfriend. While there might be some bad seeds in our female community, my life is proof that real, strong, supportive women do exist.

To those of you who are going through betrayal:

People don’t cheat because of who you are, they cheat because of who they aren’t. Take the time to reflect on your relationship, learn from your mistakes, come to terms with the end of the relationship and come back better than ever. Don’t jump into a new relationship because you are lonely and don’t expect closure because there is nothing they can say or do to make you feel better about what they have done to you. Take time to heal your heart. This is going to be a long, difficult road but I am by your side every step of the way.

To my ladies:

You know who you are. You ladies are my rock, my soulmates, my inspiration. You are my strength, my shoulder to cry on and my encouragement. I look at every one of you and feel so lucky that through the craziness of life, I have developed such strong relationships.

ajadang.com (via wallflower-turtle)

Daaaammmn Aja Dang! Very strong, I admire you.